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Information for friends of forum users: READ NOW

Fri Feb 02, 2007 11:55 pm

Recently the friends of one of our DT members have been visiting this forum on a regular basis. This is something that has happened to two or three DT members in the past, and it caused hurt and distrust on every occasion.

I would like to caution people who come here to spy (there is no other word for it) on their friends. This may be a public website, but that does not make spying acceptable. It is still an offence to spy on someone even if you do it in a place as public as the city centre.

On this forum people with a variety of disabilities share their thoughts, feelings, difficulties, and successes with a group of friends who understand. It is a support group, not a side-show. In the past DT has prevented several suicides, stopped many cases of bullying, and helped a large number of students with dyspraxia to pass their exams. It is a very important resource. If your continued visits to this site begin to make your dyspraxic friends so uncomfortable that they don't feel able to share their thoughts on here any more, then you are hurting them more than you realise.

Please remember that this site is for them. Not for you. You do not have the right to dictate everything your friends do. You do not have the right to control their use of this website. You do not have the right to tell them how to behave, no matter how 'abnormal' they seem. On this website, you are the abnormal ones. Welcome to our world. Either respect it, or take the next spaceship out.

well said vicky!

Sat Feb 03, 2007 2:17 pm

Vicky, that is incredibly well said. :wink:

Sat Feb 03, 2007 3:36 pm

A very well made and very important point Vicky. Thank you for raising this issue. If anyone has a problem with this kind of thing and knows the usernames of those responsible, please let us know and we can deactivate their accounts. Many of the forums are visible only to registered users, but I wonder if it may be useful for us to make some of the areas password only. We have tried to avoid locking parts of the site for obvious reasons and wish more than anything that we could have it available to all, without be targeted by spammers, hackers and those who delight in spoiling it for others. However if regular users feel that a password protected area would help, then please let us know.

I second what Vicky says and warn everyone who reads the messages within these foums that while you may be free to read, you are not free to break any individuals confidentiality and the information on this site is not to leave here and is certainly not for mocking or for discussion with outside parties!
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Mon Feb 05, 2007 1:21 pm

Yes that was well said Vicky :D

Mon Feb 05, 2007 3:13 pm

that is well said, vicky.
I think that is a good idea to have parts of the forum that only can be read by members and password . I like your idea helen.

Sat Feb 10, 2007 7:40 pm

A very interesting and important topic/thread

This has been well said - thank you for bringing it up Vicky

Tue Feb 27, 2007 8:16 pm

whoot whoot :P well said

Thu Mar 01, 2007 4:18 am

It was nice of you to bring that up. I think it is a good idea to encourage friends to visit the site, but they must know how to act and know that some of what we say on here needs to be kept confidential. Thanks for the post, Vicky! :)

Re: Information for friends of forum users: READ NOW

Tue Mar 27, 2012 2:32 pm

what is DT member

Re: Information for friends of forum users: READ NOW

Tue Mar 27, 2012 7:08 pm

nathanw-h wrote:what is DT member


DT stand for dyspraxic teens

Re: Information for friends of forum users: READ NOW

Tue Mar 27, 2012 8:29 pm

I can't believe people actually do that. It's really disgusting to me how someone would go looking on their friend's website (where they may share there most private thoughts), and use it as a way to control or humiliate them. That's just wrong.
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Re: Information for friends of forum users: READ NOW

Tue Mar 27, 2012 9:51 pm

trembz9393 wrote:The site is called "dyspraxic teens", therefore you should not be a member, unless you are one.


But not everyone on here is. There are a lot of Dyspraxic Adults, and Parents of Dyspraxics on here, who are on here for legitimate reasons.

Re: Information for friends of forum users: READ NOW

Tue Mar 27, 2012 10:09 pm

chocolatefudgecake wrote:
trembz9393 wrote:The site is called "dyspraxic teens", therefore you should not be a member, unless you are one.


But not everyone on here is. There are a lot of Dyspraxic Adults, and Parents of Dyspraxics on here, who are on here for legitimate reasons.


I guess I just worded it wrong. Sorry, it just frustrates me on how this site is meant to help those with dyspraxia or those who are affected by it in some other way, and it be abused by people who are trying to use it for illegitimate reasons. I'll fix it.

Re: Information for friends of forum users: READ NOW

Wed Mar 28, 2012 11:18 am

trembz9393 wrote:
chocolatefudgecake wrote:
trembz9393 wrote:The site is called "dyspraxic teens", therefore you should not be a member, unless you are one.


But not everyone on here is. There are a lot of Dyspraxic Adults, and Parents of Dyspraxics on here, who are on here for legitimate reasons.


I guess I just worded it wrong. Sorry, it just frustrates me on how this site is meant to help those with dyspraxia or those who are affected by it in some other way, and it be abused by people who are trying to use it for illegitimate reasons. I'll fix it.


That's alright, I just though I would point that out to you. It is upsetting that people would spy on their friends on here.

Re: Information for friends of forum users: READ NOW

Sat Jun 02, 2012 9:41 am

Hard to believe anyone would stoop so low. Actually, no it isn't....

Big :mrgreen: 's on the "YOU are the abnormal ones round here" line though. :wink:
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