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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby Alice » Mon Jun 07, 2010 12:55 am

As you can see from my posts on this topic, I've been slowly developing what I'm now certain is a crush on someone. He just told me he thinks the reason that a guy I've been having one or two problems with got confused is because I tend to look at pepole like I love them.

That's a very strong word, I don't "love" this guy anymore than I love any one as another human being or possibly a little as I love a friend. But I do think mabye this may not be how I look at everyone. The thing is, I've felt I've been able to be very open with this guy since before I started to feel this way. As a result, he knows that I have never had a crush before, and that I have been having problems with what my dad calls "unwanted attentions" from another guy, so he's unlikely to guess my feelings. I have only been friends with him for a short while so I'm only about 75% certain he's available, let alone interested.

I'm happy with the way things are, for now. But I feel a little sad that I have inadvertantly convinced him that, if he did develop feelings for me, they would not be mutual. I know even if I wanted to ask him out or anything I could never work up the courage, and I've made it impossible for it to work the other way round.
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby abi » Mon Jun 07, 2010 8:42 am

1. find out if he is available
2. be sure he understands your social difficulties
3. email or im him and ask for a date

if your using instant messaging, write out what you want to say on word or something similar, the copy and paste into the chat window.
the way i see it, dyspraxia is an extra hurdle in every race i run, but that extra hurdle, is just extra exercise, so in the end, i will come through stronger.
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby Alice » Mon Jun 07, 2010 11:36 am

He knows about my social problems already. It's a bit difficult to find out if he's available, all I know is he's got quite a few female friends he talks about and its difficult to tell exactly what each one means to him. Also, I know I wouldn't have the courage to say anything, in person or otherwise.
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby Alice » Wed Jun 23, 2010 3:04 am

I think I just changed the dynamics of my friendship group in a manner which may not be entirely reversable. I'm not sure I'm as unhappy as I thought I would be doing so...
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby Thirteen-thirty-seven » Wed Jun 23, 2010 2:06 pm

I hope everything goes well.
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby johnbergqvist » Wed Jun 23, 2010 4:18 pm

Well I have decided my main goal for the year (well its my birthday in august so I may as well start now) is to get a girlfriend, Easier said than done, given that there's zero girls on my university course and the last time I went out to any sort of social event (few months ago) I got soo nervous again that i started crying (I do that when im nervous), which obviously doesnt leave a good impression, didnt even get to the stage where I was able to talk to a girl so yeah didnt go very far there lol.
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby Spoon » Wed Jun 23, 2010 5:47 pm

If you're looking to meet more people, maybe you could join some clubs and societies at your university? Diversifying your group of friends is good for socialising as well as dating.

Good luck, but don't settle for anyone. Being single is better than dating boring people :p
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby johnbergqvist » Wed Jun 23, 2010 6:54 pm

Spoon wrote:If you're looking to meet more people, maybe you could join some clubs and societies at your university? Diversifying your group of friends is good for socialising as well as dating.

Good luck, but don't settle for anyone. Being single is better than dating boring people :p

I've tried, but theres zero clubs or societies at my uni that im interested in.
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby Alice » Thu Jun 24, 2010 2:13 pm

Thirteen-thirty-seven wrote:I hope everything goes well.

Thanks. Unfortunately, I think it's upset a friend of ours who has also liked him for quite a while.
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby Thirteen-thirty-seven » Thu Jun 24, 2010 5:05 pm

*hugs* I'm sorry to hear that.
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby Fenrir » Thu Jun 24, 2010 10:40 pm

Sorry to hear that Alice :( Hope it gets sorted out.


Theres a Girl i like atm, and i think she suspects i like her. Im goin to a sleepover at my mates with some of his mates on Sunday for his birthday, and he's inviting her :P Only problem is im useless at talking in groups or to people in general, i normally sit and listen.
If she does go though, im gona want to talk to her, and thinking of mayby telling her i like her, i just dont know how.

And a few of my mates there know i like her as well...and they've already made it clear they're, how should i say it...going to be evil to me :lol:
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby MontyDyspraxia » Fri Jun 25, 2010 8:55 am

Well, I wrote Bevan a poem telling him how I felt about him. So maybe you could something like that? Or whatever makes you comfortable?
"When we kiss, it feels like a flying saucer landing" ~ Strange Powers by The Magnetic Fields

My Youtube channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/BethGoth15?feature=mhee
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby Thirteen-thirty-seven » Fri Jun 25, 2010 5:22 pm

I think you should just screw your courage to the sticking place and chat to her. Something dramatic like a poem is probably better saved for if and when you're actually in a relationship.
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby Steph » Fri Jun 25, 2010 6:31 pm

When I was at university, I decided to reveal my true feelings for a (non university) friend through singing "Truly Madly Deeply Do" by Savage Garden at a karaoke. Looking back, I cringe. Luckily I never showed it to him in the end (one of my friends recorded it on her video camera) as I eventually told him through other means and he didn't want to jeopardise our friendship.
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Re: Relationships and Dyspraxia

Postby johnbergqvist » Sun Jun 27, 2010 8:41 pm

Fenrir wrote:Theres a Girl i like atm, and i think she suspects i like her. Im goin to a sleepover at my mates with some of his mates on Sunday for his birthday, and he's inviting her :P Only problem is im useless at talking in groups or to people in general, i normally sit and listen.
If she does go though, im gona want to talk to her, and thinking of mayby telling her i like her, i just dont know how.

And a few of my mates there know i like her as well...and they've already made it clear they're, how should i say it...going to be evil to me :lol:

You're lucky, I don't even have any mates who I could go over to a sleepover with girls with (Bit convoluted there, sorry about that) :P. Good Luck. And whenver I start talking to girls, my mind goes blank, so we're just sitting there in silence lol, which I would assume doesnt do well for first impressions.
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