Sorry for the long message but I think it should be explained fully:
I have experienced, and I know many of you will have experienced the lack or no understanding by others concerning learning differences.
But a comment from my 13 year old brother really took the biscuit last night and he swooped to a low level I never knew he was capable of.
To explain my brother is a 'high-flyer' achiever, he goes to a top school, he tops pretty much every class and is popular with most (if not all) teachers and some of the other students because of his standards. With this he has become arrogant and looks down at others not as 'talented' as him. He has no empathy towards others feelings except for him and his friends, and almost seems to sneer at 'lower' people than himself. I have noticed it, but my parents haven't and it seems to only get worse as time has moved on. He might grow out of it, but I have my doubts.
So I came home from a pretty long day at work, I was tired and even had a Scouters meeting to attend to in the evening, so I wasn't exactly in a positive frame of mind, I just wanted to relax, but I knew I couldn't.
I sat in a chair next to my brother, who was watching CBBC. I am not sure if anyone else was watching it at this time, but about 5:25 a programme on about Autism came on (which of course comes under the same umbrella as Dyspraxia because of it's similarities). I saw my brother 'inching' himself towards the controls to the TV-in which case I told him that he might learn something about different people and the way they work. Anyway I wanted to watch it because I am always interested in these types of programs.
To my disgust and horror he replied "I do not want to watch stupid people" and promptly changed the channel. I, on the defending side, explained that he was out of order with that comment and there was no need for such a brutal verbal abuse on others not like him.
My parents rushed to HIS defence and told Me OFF for having a go at him-even though he needs to be told what he said was wrong on so many levels.
I was speechless and hurt,
I can understand my brothers lack of understanding, he's young and naive-but the comment he said and my parents reaction to ME was not the correct response. Am I over reacting?
I do not know what to say or do, I have talked to other people and they agree my brother was completely out of order.
He is too arrogant to 'teach' anything outside the school curriculum, so I like to know how will I convince him to have a better moral respect of others around him? My parents can't/won't do it, the school has nothing to offer either so that leaves me.
The sky's the limit, or in my brothers case, the classroom ceiling.