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Social Awkwardness

PostPosted: Sat Mar 22, 2014 5:33 pm
by boopidoop
Hello fellow Dyspraxics! I need your help, as I have a problem. Well, quite a few, but this one is specific

As you can tell by the subject line, I am very socially awkward. For many reasons.

1. The Usual.
I am worried about what people think of me. No idea why, I have been studying psychology (My own research) and can only place it on past experiences, leading to...

2. The Past.
My dyspraxia is mixed with a lot of other disorders, I've counted about 7, possibly 8. Whether it is dyspraxia or not, I get frequent body spasms, leading to embarrassing yet entertaining stories. I won't tell them now, but they frequently include me hitting a friend, or even an enemy, completely by accident. This happens a lot when I feel shy. I will go all shaky, then suddenly *BAM*, bloody nose. And it usually happens around girls.

3. My general status.
I've been regarded as "The Weird Kid" for a long time now, I do have friends, but they are of the same classification. There are no girls in this group, and we all feel sad that we can't hold down ze laydees. I try to be a fun guy, but everyone gives that all-too-familiar look, of "Oh gosh, it's him again".

I was wondering if anyone has had similar experiences. I have had mine for 10 years now, it all started when I was 6.

If anyone out there has advice, maybe the older users, who have broken free? If you do I will do a barrel roll. 7 times. While still lying on my bed. And while the bed is on the floor. ie. I will spin my house round on a pivot.

Re: Social Awkwardness

PostPosted: Fri Mar 28, 2014 12:06 am
by Rodge1991
There was a time where people would look at me as the weird one and the fact that I cared what they thought made me be depressed and have dark thoughts. To break free I didn't care any more what people thought and I embraced my weirdness....I'm weird because I'm different! And being different is good!

As for ze laydees, they love confidence (or so I've gathered), and they like quirkiness. Accepting that you are different and heaven forbid...weird....you'll be more confident. You may start to get comments.

I'm afraid I cannot relate to the random body spasms and so I cannot comment. But if it's link to shyness by being more confident in your skin and accepting you are different your shyness should slowly disappear. A long time ago I was painfully shy, wouldn't talk much and I would keep quiet. As time passed I gained confidence and started to break out of this. It's a slow process and I'm still breaking free.

I had help from a friend introduce me to more people so I had plenty of practice. However the first step is to accept you for who you are. Once you've done that the rest should follow easily enough. Good luck amigo!

Re: Social Awkwardness

PostPosted: Fri Mar 28, 2014 11:49 am
by Steph
Being comfortable with yourself is a long process when you have self esteem and confidence issues. I am 27 and it is still an area I struggle with. Some days, I am happy with myself and don't care if people see me as weird but, then suddenly I hit a bad patch and have a few weeks of really depressive and dark thoughts and, when I am in this sort of state, I am hypersensitive to how I am perceived by others and I get very upset that people think I am weird. I don't really have any advice to give you but you will get through the bad times.

Regarding the spasms, have you been assessed for Tourettes Syndome? The spasms sound a lot like the physical tics that can occur with this condition and it is well known that the tics in Tourettes Syndrome occur more frequently in times of stress, nervousness and anxiety.

Re: Social Awkwardness

PostPosted: Thu Apr 03, 2014 10:40 pm
by boopidoop
Steph wrote:Some days, I am happy with myself and don't care if people see me as weird but, then suddenly I hit a bad patch and have a few weeks of really depressive and dark thoughts and, when I am in this sort of state, I am hypersensitive to how I am perceived by others and I get very upset that people think I am weird.


Yeah, this is basically how I get. It just seems to be more common with the dark thoughts, and less with the happy with myself, but not as much any more :) (See my reply to Rodge below :D)

Steph wrote:Regarding the spasms, have you been assessed for Tourettes Syndome? The spasms sound a lot like the physical tics that can occur with this condition and it is well known that the tics in Tourettes Syndrome occur more frequently in times of stress, nervousness and anxiety.


Nah, I checked with my doctor after my initial diagnosis with Dyspraxia, and apparently, as Dyspraxia is linked with failures in the nervous system and brain, occasionally a signal will be sent the wrong way and into my muscles. To be honest though, I kinda like the spasms circa a week ago, when I had a spasm in my legs when picking up my folders, while everyone was leaving assembly, and I accidentally did a backflip! Made a few friends for a while, but they are more interested in CAUSING spasms, rather than PREVENTING them.

Rodge1991 wrote:As for ze laydees, they love confidence (or so I've gathered), and they like quirkiness. Accepting that you are different and heaven forbid...weird....you'll be more confident. You may start to get comments.


That is AMAZING advice! I tried accepting me for me, using deduction! I worked out exactly what makes me depressed all the time, and explained to myself exactly why they are false reasons. Now, 95% of the time, I am happy!

Rodge1991 wrote:A long time ago I was painfully shy, wouldn't talk much and I would keep quiet. As time passed I gained confidence and started to break out of this. It's a slow process and I'm still breaking free.


Yeah, I still get like that, noticing someone staring at me, then I blush, look away, and walk off. However, I have decided to do what no shy-man has done before... maybe. I'm going to start a vlog, the aims being for my shyness to stop, and to explain to the world exactly what Dyspraxia can do to you. It won't be easy, but I still need a better camera...

Sorry about the late reply btw, I completely forgot I posted this! That, and I had a metric butt-tonne of AS Mock Exams, so I didn't have much time for internetting :/

Re: Social Awkwardness

PostPosted: Tue Nov 08, 2016 9:18 am
by Pokemoneiei

Re: Social Awkwardness

PostPosted: Fri Jan 20, 2017 8:11 am
by otso8
People are always judging other people, but for me I don't care about other People feelings. As long as I am happy Im ok with it.
Happy People always get positive vibes with them.. that is my motto and I believe in it.

Gclub

Re: Social Awkwardness

PostPosted: Mon Jan 23, 2017 6:56 am
by otso8
I would like to add, be yourself and dont think about what other people will say..
Enjoy life and do whatever you want to make you happy.

Goldenslot