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School, college, and university nerves

PostPosted: Thu Sep 27, 2007 1:48 pm
by parnassus
I am feeling quite relaxed and comfortable today, but I do get spasmodic periods of anxiety about going back to Cambridge. I get frightened that what happened last winter will happen again. :cry:

Esther is frightened of university as well. (Her first term at Oxford starts on Monday.) She was assigned to quite a big college, not the small cosy one she applied to, and she's been having strange nightmares about getting lost and not being able to cope. (Getting herself lost is one of Esther's specialities.) She would probably be talking about this herself, only her Internet is down.

I know that there are a few other people on here who are jittery about school or college. This is a thread where we can all 'check in' to relieve nerves.

PostPosted: Thu Sep 27, 2007 7:11 pm
by Miranda
Vicky... I have every faith in you...

Much luck also to Esther :)

And anyone else who is worried

PostPosted: Sun Sep 30, 2007 10:48 am
by tears_on_a_pillow
I had 3 days in uni last week (weds, thurs, friday) and was on a induction few days and it went incredibly well, I have made friends iwth people on my course, there are only 13 of us, luckily - lol. Managed to only get lost once, had a hell of alot of information to take on board as was bombared with information but everyone is wonderful and I can't wait to get down to starting the work properly this week :)

Esther I hope things are going well for you and that you haven't gotten too lost

Vicky remember ot breathe I am sure you will continue to write well

anyone and everyone else remember you are special and can and will succeed

Here for you all
Leax

PostPosted: Sun Sep 30, 2007 10:58 pm
by Steph
Don't worry, Esther-I'm sure you'll have a great time at Oxford-you are a kind hearted, generous and warm person and people will respond to that. I don't know if Oxford do this but, at Kent, if you're unhappy with your accommodation placement, you can ask to be put on a waiting list for the accommodation off your choice so, if someone drops out, which does happen a lot during the first term at any uni, you can take their room. If you are upset and agitated by change, though, I wouldn't recommend this because it may take a long time to come through by which time you'll be settled into your room anyway!

Vicky,
When do you start university again? I'm sure you'll be fine-better than fine, in fact. Remember both of you that DT is always behind you! (Is it just me or does anyone else get a flashback to childrens pantomimes with that statement? "They're behind you!" Probably just me then-ignore me-I'm a bit hyper!)

Lea,
I am glad you are settling in and appear to be very happy-long may it continue!

As for me, I'm a bit nervous about my dissertation! It is on a subject which I am very interested in and my superviser is lovely (if a bit dyspraxic himself, I think!) but the reading for it just seems to be so much and 5 sides of A4 notes I had prepared on this one book for it have miraculously vanished from my room-I have searched everywhere and they are nowhere to be seen so I have had to continue and will tell my dissertation superviser on Wednesday when I meet him! I am getting up early tomorrow in order to do more reading for it. On top of that, I cannot access the website where the majority of my course materials for 2 of my modules this term are-I cannot remember my username or password for the site and all of the combinations I have tried are incorrect so I clicked "change password" and a message came up saying "Password cannot be changed for this account!" So I have to get that sorted out this week too! Doesn't bode well for my third year!

PostPosted: Mon Oct 01, 2007 9:54 am
by tears_on_a_pillow
Steph - don't get me started on passwords - I can't log into the uni library on Intranet as the password they gave me doesn't work! so need to get it checked and changed when I am in uni on wednesday

PostPosted: Thu Oct 04, 2007 2:43 pm
by parnassus
I'm back in Cambridge and have been for a few days. As always, it's overwhelming. I forgot to go to an important meeting yesterday and I couldn't cope with my role at the Freshers' Fair (I was meant to be helping at the welfare desk, but the noise was too much). Luckily people have been understanding.

I had a doctor's appointment yesterday. In addition to study skills and sessions with my mentor, I'm going to have counselling for my problems with anxiety and some more help from the autism support group. The doctor said that he's reluctant to put me on medication unless he has absolutely no other choice. I'm glad of that - I've seen what Danni's anxiety medication did to her and I have no desire whatsoever to start leaking breast milk all over the place.

Beyond that, I'm very happy with my choice of papers and the topics I'll be studying this year. My two dissertations look like they are going to be really fun to research and write. I hope this is going to be the best year yet.

Good luck to everyone!

PostPosted: Thu Oct 04, 2007 5:57 pm
by invisifish
I´m having a bit of a work overload at the moment. I'm taking photography as an extra GCSE and I have been put in two different groups for it. Most people in my monday group are there both monday and thursday, so they can keep up, but I go to a different photography group on thursdays, luckily my best friend is in both groups with me, but I'm sturgeling to keep up with both sets of work and it has all go very confusing.

PostPosted: Thu Oct 04, 2007 7:06 pm
by Thirteen-thirty-seven
Steph- contact the IT staff at your Uni about your password problem. I'm sure they'll be able to sort it out. (hugs) Try not to panic about your workload - I am sure your supervisor will help.

Vicky- I am glad you are so optimistic. I amnot surprised you couldn't cope with Fresher's fair. It is very busy.

Things are going quite well. I have got lost a couple of times and locked my key in my room, but no major bad stuff has come of it. There has been a bit of confusion which means my student loan may be alte, but I think I can handle that because my rent isn't due for a while. The workload is going to be a challenge, to put it midly. But it is interesting and my tutors are lovely and very understanding about dyspraxia.

Everyone is really friendly and the college is not asbig a I thought. It is one of the biggest undegraduate colleges in Oxford, but still small enough that I won't disappear into the fog of people. I have made friends with a really nice girl who lives on the other side of the all from me and I am getting to knw some other great people.

I have signed up fora ridiculous number of societies: three martial arts' clubs (I'll try them all and continue with whichever one I like best, if I can find time, which I doubt), four volunteering organisations, something called The Assassins' Guild (not as sinister as it sounds - it ivolves shooting people with bananas), the real ale society (I'm not 100% sure why), the Christian union, the Islamic society, Women in politics, the gamelan club, the poetry society, the failed noveilsts' society, the creative writing club, the penal reform society, Pro-Test (in favour of medical tests on animals), St Anne's creative writing club, the Catholic society, the roleplaying society... there are probably others which I forgot about. I won't be able t do half this stuff. I just didn't want to say no to all the people who approached me and propositioned me. If I find my way to any of the meetings it will be a miracle!

I must try not to get distracted by all the societies and actually get on with some work. I have to hand in my first peice of work for tomorrow and I'm a bit scared it won't be good. But no-one expects the first piece of work to be that good, anyway.

My timetable is going to be quite regular. This will make life easier. I won't have to leave college and go nto town that often, but I know people who will come with me when I need to go somewhere, so I should get used to it. And and old friend of mine who'salready been at Oxford for a year is going to help me find the chaplaincy and then take me to eat ice-cream. :)

It is going to be good here. Tough, but good.

PostPosted: Fri Oct 05, 2007 9:47 pm
by ~Jenny~
I move into my room at York on Sunday (yes i know we move in late!). At the moment I'm finding the idea of moving away very strange but at the moment I'm not nervous (I have been this week, and I've been excited but at the moment I'm neither) so we'll see how it goes :)

PostPosted: Fri Oct 05, 2007 10:18 pm
by Steph
Good luck Jenny! I'm sure it will go fantastically :D

PostPosted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 2:10 pm
by parnassus
Esther, that is a formidable list of societies. You have managed to beat my record in one day! :shock: I joined about ten and I only really participate in two.

PostPosted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 7:13 pm
by Thirteen-thirty-seven
One I forgot to mention - trampolining. They've sent me an e-mail. That sounds like fun, and not too challenging for my co-ordination. :)

PostPosted: Tue Oct 09, 2007 9:08 pm
by C
It's my second week back at Uni and I'm loving it. I'm so much more confident now that I'm in my second year - everything was so new and horrible last year when I started. Even though I'm happy there, I was nervous about going back as well. It's good to know I'm not the only one.

I'm settlnig in now, is nice to see people on my course again. I have applied to do mentoring this time; I will mentor a year twelve psychology student over the internet and tell them about uni life (I have a special 'blog' site set up and log on once a week to 'speak.') I am also considering peer mentoring, where I mentor a first year student experiencing difficulties. I worry a little that my own confidence, initiative and social skills aren't good enough to do this but they do try to match you with someone similiar so with any luck I'd get someone with dyspraxia and I think I'd be good at helping them. A bigger worry for me concerns time. I have two part time jobs (a mothers help and a teaching and midday assistant at a local school) and work a total of eighteen hours per week. Ten of those hours are on Wednesday and six are on Thursday; Wednesday and Thursday are my two days off Uni. Sometimes I worry about overload and that I won't have time to do all my Uni work but my aunt is the headmisstress of the school and she's said just to tell her if I need to cut down certain classes (there's something I do voluntarily there on Wednesday afternoons that would be the first to cut out). I really enjoy it there so I hope it doesn't come to that, though.

PostPosted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 1:28 pm
by Thirteen-thirty-seven
Charlotte, I am glad you are havig a good time. I think you would be good at mentoring - you are very helpful and empathetic. Try not to overwork yourself, though. You seem very busy.

PostPosted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 11:31 pm
by eoakley
Hi all
been back at uni for just over two weeks now The third year I made it. I have my first deadline on monday ahhh so soon, its my research poposal for my dissitation ( I cannot believe how quickly time has gone) it hardly seems a month ago since I was moving into the halls of residence. only another 9 months and ill be wearing a robe and a silly hat with pride.


anyway everyone good luck for the year

Emma