You are a very strong person and an inspiring Christian, Candy.
I love to learn from you.
I'm glad that your mother is feeling much better now.
I said that I disagree with smacking children, but I must point out that, in certain cirumstances it is effective as a punishment. It may be better to do something else, but for some children, hitting them on the buttock is the only way to get through. If you do this, you have to explain why you did it afterward though because the child will be confused if you don't. For instance, if they are refusing to help clean up the dishes and they keep on making excuses not to do it, you should first talk to them, and then as a last resort go to hitting. Only do it once because ofthen times that is effective enough and it hurts to be smacked twice. Use your hands because other objects hurt. I know people who have been smacked by wooden spoons and such and it hurts a lot!
I have never had that happen, thankfully I only got my parent's hands.
But it was effective for me and I didn't grow up thinking that I was really bad or have any psychological differences because of it. My sisters both got smacked on the bottom a few times and they are all mentally and emotionally healthy. I think if it is done too much it is bad and then it becomes a problem. Also there must be a legit reason for it ie disobedience of doing a task that is reasonable or punishment for stealing someone's doll. It needs to be talked about afterward because then they won't get why they were hit. Once they understand why they were hit, they probably won't do it again. Also no paddles, spoons, belts, etc. only hitting on the bottom or hand and not the face/ other parts because the face seems like it makes more of an emotional blow in some respects because it hurts more than the bottom. If I ever got hit on my face by my mom or dad, I would be very, very sad indeed.
People who hit kids constantly need counsel!