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telling people about Dyspraxia?

PostPosted: Fri Jun 01, 2007 7:03 pm
by druchi
well ive known ive had dyspraxia since i was 12/13 cant remember exactly i have major problems remembering the day time and alot of stuff people have told me only moments before which most of my freinds find annoying at times i also almost always trip over there shoes when walking about with them which tends too not end very well sometimes id liek to wear sunglass'es most days because i find the ground too bright too look at without hurting my eyes but it brings alot of unwanted attention

anyway...

i kind of want to tell my 'close' freinds about my dyspraxia *my fammily all know which was uncomfortible at 1st* im not sure how im going to tell them really i just cant walk over and say hi ive got dyspraxia *if only it was that simple* so does anyone have any tips about it? and im not sure on hwo there reactions will be like but mostprobably "what the hell is dyspraxia?????" or "oh" and not give too monkeys although it might end worse and imr eally worried about it

any help much aprreciated

PostPosted: Fri Jun 01, 2007 7:44 pm
by Miranda
Here is a link to just that discussion

http://www.dyspraxicteens.org.uk/viewtopic.php?t=2774

I think it can be a good idea... but that's just me

PostPosted: Fri Jun 01, 2007 7:47 pm
by druchi
thanks M

PostPosted: Sat Jun 02, 2007 1:17 pm
by Steph
I just tell people as and when they ask and they usually do ask on account of my clumsiness-I often misbalance and fall over when standing talking to people and people often notice my odd gait-I just explain about dyspraxia and most people I have told have been very sympathetic about it.

PostPosted: Sat Jun 02, 2007 9:07 pm
by druchi
well i suppose everybodys diffrent *i feel really stupid now* what i mean is how could i go about telling them because if they find out on there own hey might get annoyed i didnt tell them

but ifi do tell them i have the faintest idea of what might happen

i suppose im trying to put aside my doubts

PostPosted: Sun Jun 03, 2007 2:29 pm
by Fortnox
Best thing to do is not make a big deal of it, just drop it in comicly, and make it sound as if you expected them to know anyway, just casual. For example, if someone is going to throw a ball at you take the moment to say "Hey, don't throw a ball at the dyspraxic kid, thats just mean!" or something comical like that. Also its alaways easier to tell people online, but remember its easier to mention it during a different conversation if you can find something to link to it, rather than opening a conversation just to explain. c

PostPosted: Sun Jun 03, 2007 3:58 pm
by druchi
oh kay ill keep that in mind 8)

PostPosted: Sun Jun 03, 2007 7:19 pm
by Miranda
I guess inform yourself about it clearly so you feel well equipped to explain things, but remind your close friends that you are still the person you always were.

PostPosted: Sun Jun 03, 2007 7:47 pm
by druchi
thanks for the help guys 8) i just need to write my speech now.... :roll:

PostPosted: Sun Jun 03, 2007 9:26 pm
by Steph
Best of luck. If they are genuine friends, they will appreciate that you are still the same person they have always known and accept your dyspraxia for just part of who you are. If they don't, then that's their loss but I'm sure everything will work out fine.

PostPosted: Sun Jun 03, 2007 9:40 pm
by druchi
i dunno maybe im jsut paraniod :(

PostPosted: Sun Jun 03, 2007 9:52 pm
by Steph
Druchi,
I can understand why you are feeling that way because it is a daunting prospect but I am sure that everything will go just fine. I don't know about your past or previous experiences but, for me personally, I was badly bullied during my school years and so, for a long time, this tainted my views on people-I automatically assumed that everybody would react in that way when I told them about my difficulties-this attitude actually really held me back because I was too scared to go out there and be myself and that is no way to live! I am still only just getting used to the concept that there are people who will stick around and be my friends and I still have a long, long way to go with regards to self esteem and confidence issues but I am happier than I have ever been now because I know that most people will be kind and sympathetic and try their hardest to understand the conditions I live with. I wish you the best of luck-let us know how you get on!

PostPosted: Sun Jun 03, 2007 10:03 pm
by druchi
well here goes i have hard time letting myself trust people but if you do gain my trust then ill probably trust you 100% never been bullied except by neighbours and my teacher *both really badly psychologicaly* i have low self esteem and confidence but i try not too let it show... it mostly shows in the summer or spring when im too hot and get really moody and cranky or deprressed

my freind who i beat 15-4 ive been freinds with since P.4 andim S3 now so ofcourse if anything happens ill be devastated hes the only freind ive got who wants to come over to mine regulary

my other freind who im worried about having something ive jsut started getting freindly with and somehow he got my trust really easily because i dont think hed do anything to intentionally hurt anyone

those are the two im considering telling theres a third but that can wait for antoher day im so tired :( takes me bloody hours to get too sleep i just cnat stop thinking! well nighty night guys :)

and ill let you know when i pluck up the courage im scared stiff

PostPosted: Mon Jun 04, 2007 7:48 pm
by druchi
Well: today Monday 04/06/07 i was about to tell my freind about dyspraxia and i felt absoultly nerve wracked and as i was about to open my mouth when

:arrow: "FIGHTFIGHTFIGHT" and so everyone all rushed over to the fight and then shortly afterwords the bell rang....so everything i was about to say went away and my mouth turned to sand

ah well.... :(

hopefully ill be able to do it tommorow or maybe Thursday :(

PostPosted: Tue Jun 05, 2007 3:41 pm
by Steph
Good luck with telling him tomorrow or Thursday! I know how frustrating and disappointing it is when you want to tell someone something and other distractions always get in the way!