Share any tips or ideas that you have which make living with dyspraxia easier.(Please start a new thread for each tip)
Wed Mar 16, 2011 9:11 am
I am wondering if anyone can help or advise. My brother has just turned was diagnosed with dyspraxia around 8-9, he is now 19 and is a little lost in life. He has no job, he doesnt really do anything apart from socialise with friends in evening, he has no drive to do anything with his life. I watch my mum and dad try everything in there power to help him, but he doesnt want to help himself. He has never been intrested in actually accepting he has dyspraxia and trying to cope and overcome it. He doesnt have a job and doesnt really have any intention in finding one, he makes exscuses or says hes ill when he actualy needs to get up and do something. Dont get me wrong I understand he struggles,but I cannot understand why he wont try to do something with his life. Are these all common symtoms and is there anything we can do to try to encourage him to try and overcome how he is feeling?
Any help would be great.
Fri Mar 18, 2011 9:49 pm
I'm sorry to hear about your brothers problems. A common secondary symptom of dyspraxia may include lack of self-esteem and confidence (due to both dyspraxic difficulties and having to deal with other peoples negative comments). Dyspraxia can (I believe) also make it harder than most to obtain a job as potential employers may be put off by messy handwritting in written applications, awkward posture and mannerisms at interviews and may not understand the lack of coordination and fatigue that many people with dyspraxia have with everyday life and tasks. In employment, people with dyspraxia may have a hard time knowing whether or not to tell people, and gaining understanding from employers and fellow employees. With the current recession, it seems that work can be difficult to find for anybody, especially those with certain problems. However, having said that, while symptoms of dyspraxia can make work and daily living difficult, I agree with you that your brother should attempt to find work if possible and should not use dyspraxia as an excuse (something that, I admit, I myself do from time to time, although I try not to).
From what you have said, it does sound like your brother is having a hard time accepting he has a problem. Do you know if there are any organisations available to help him - I hear 'connections' is quite good (in case you know, they help teenagers and young people into work or study. Google it and you will probably find a link to their website). Also (in my opinion), some jobs are more 'dyspraxic friendly' than others. For example, I have a part time job working with preschool children and a lot of my previous jobs have involved children too. While there are some aspects of these kind of jobs I find difficult, I do think my own difficulties have helped me emphasise with the children's needs. Similiarily, I'm studying developmental psychology at University, again, I think my own problems have helped me understand the human brain and how and why people act and think.
I hope things improve with your brother soon - maybe his GP or a treatment such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) would help?