should u hide dyspraxia or not

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should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby ben 10 » Fri Mar 30, 2012 4:08 am

all of my school life i had no real freinds and never had people to talk about. i also struggle to talk to my family. now im older i have got better at socialising and have made freinds and only 3 that i think i can trust. i have only resntly tryed to explain to them my problems and y i do and say the things that i do but they just dont understand. i feel like i need to fully open up but dont have the confidence to talk about everything.

basicaly im asking how any body that is reading this message how get people to understand u.
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby nathanw-j » Fri Mar 30, 2012 4:16 pm

no you should not hide it

why should you be ashamed of it, it is what makes you what you are :)
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby Steph » Fri Mar 30, 2012 8:12 pm

I think a condition like dyspraxia will always be hard for other people to understand as they are invisible/hidden disabilities but that doesn't mean that you should give up trying to explain it. I find that, once people do understand, they are a lot more tolerant of your individual quirks.
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby ben 10 » Fri Mar 30, 2012 8:49 pm

then when would you tell someone the second you meet them when you no them a bit better. I feel like im using as and excuse and dont usually end tell people until somthing real bad happans then they just dont seem to want to understand me which only makes me feel worse that what i do already.
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby Steph » Fri Mar 30, 2012 9:25 pm

I usually wait until I know people quite well and then just drop it into conversation. By then, most people will have usually guessed that there is something different about me anyway.
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby Remus » Mon Apr 02, 2012 8:44 pm

I certainly don't hide it but I don't go around wave a banner either. I think it's just about finding the right place and time.
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby cosmiccreeper » Mon Apr 09, 2012 10:05 am

Just to add - I used to not really tell people too, partly because it's hard to explain, but also because I didn't want to make my difference obvious. However, like Steph said, they'll know sooner or later anyway, so now I tell people who I have got to know a bit better. I find explaining it a little hard, though. How does everyone explain it, incidentally?
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby nathanw-j » Thu Apr 12, 2012 2:28 pm

i just say that it makes me uncoordinated and something else i have forgotten
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby _robyn_ » Fri Apr 13, 2012 6:47 pm

It was quite funny once when I was trying to cut out a circle and my friend was laughing because I was failing.

She then said "Oh my gosh robyn, seriously!" and carried on laughing.

Then someone else mentioned how i had dyspraxia. My friend didnt understand and was still laughing ( I didnt mine her laughing, i often laugh at my own clumsiness and inability to cut a circle)
The she finally understood and just went "I'm soooo sorry! I can't I laughed at you for having a disability!"

I don't mind if my friends dont understand at first- they do eventually And me and my friend still look back on the whole cutting circle thing as a big funny situation.
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby opamphilion » Wed Sep 19, 2012 4:39 pm

if some one says some thing like i use a laptop in class and i will say it help with my dyspraxia and then most people will ask me more so that i explain the best i can. but i will never bring it up to some one out of the blue. so i would say yes if some one notic some thing diffrent or if it will effect them like group attivites but i dont tend to bring it up my self.
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby Paddington » Sat Jun 08, 2013 4:22 pm

I think it depends on the individual situation. If my dyspraxia is going to effect that person then I wait until I know them. They normally ask why I am using an alpha smart. I say I have Dispraxia. They normally just leave it at that.
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby Laura19 » Sat Jun 08, 2013 8:54 pm

Ye I think it depends and I find it hard to know the right time to tell people about my dyspraxia and its hard for a lot of people to understand :(
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby Rodge1991 » Wed Jun 26, 2013 8:41 pm

I used to hide my Dyspraxia, as I thought it would of isolated me even further away from everyone and just gave them extra 'fuel' to use against me...

As time went on and I understood my situation I tried to explain my difficulties to certain people-but no one would try to understand or had the capabilities to understand.

After being constantly rejected by employers in recent years because of my Dyspraxia (I know this for a fact) I decided enough was enough and decided that the only way forward was to make it clear, crystal clear.

And thus I went from saying nothing all the way up to metaphorically shouting from the top of a tall building.
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Re: should u hide dyspraxia or not

Postby Paddington » Fri Aug 23, 2013 6:02 pm

I really think it depends. In a work environment I can imagine that that would not be a good idea. But when your in school it can be really good to have a few people who understand. For instance in group work when your supposed to be doing a poster having a friend who volunteers to do the writing for you and is prepared to explain something to you again can be a real asset.

But on the other hand to some people if you say disability or disadvantage literally means to them someone in a wheelchair and they might try to treat you as if you need everything doing for you. Explaining exactly what you need/ struggle with not just all about dyspraxia works. However I am not sure about this. This is what worked for me. Don't try to think about how things could go wrong when telling them try to think about the positives of telling them.
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