Self Esteem/Confidence

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Self Esteem/Confidence

Postby Bladen » Sat May 05, 2012 3:42 am

Now I didn't know where to put this specifically but, self esteem, confidence, something very very important.
Now I'm a fragile person, I can do what I can do, I feel I should be able to do more, push myself to do more and blame myself for not being able to. Harsh words or insults hit deep, I can put on a cold poker face and ward off those who try to bring me down but words, they are like bullets and they hit deep inside the flesh, contorting and tearing through you. Leaving scars.

That's me, I try to tell myself to accept I can only do so much but I feel I must, should, could do more than I do, over exert myself so as to say. Others on here might not have the ability to have confidence in themselves at all which is why what I'm after is for people to share their wisdom and thoughts on building confidence and most importantly, in my opinion defending oneself against harsh words.
You might know me one of these aliases:
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if not, well.
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Re: Self Esteem/Confidence

Postby adamdonaldadam » Thu May 10, 2012 10:23 am

im not going to pretend to be an expert. but im a much more confident person now than before because i enjoy life more and put and have less pressure and stress on myself.
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Re: Self Esteem/Confidence

Postby Remus » Thu May 10, 2012 6:45 pm

I think one of my biggest peeve about confidence is those people who say if you don't have a lot of confidence, fake it and it will suddenly appear like out of nowhere one day which I really don't buy into.

I think building confidence is a process that takes a lot of time, patience and effort, it's not something that is just going to occur overnight. Over the past four years, I have gain a lot more confidence from being on my courses. Still, it's a long way off from normal, average person but hey, any improvement in my book is good.
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Re: Self Esteem/Confidence

Postby cosmiccreeper » Thu May 10, 2012 7:33 pm

My confidence has grown over the last few years too, though I am also perhaps less confident than an average person. I think it does depend what areas you're trying to build confidence in. Personally I have found that a good question to ask yourself in most areas where you lack confidence is 'what do I really want?' and if you can work out what that is, then ask 'and how can I realistically get it?'
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Re: Self Esteem/Confidence

Postby jemstein123 » Sun Jun 03, 2012 11:10 am

This has been a real big problem for me...and I hope the counselling works....but I need to support myself and not rely on other people...
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