Autistic Spectrum? Or just 'different'?

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Postby jemstein123 » Sun Jun 03, 2012 11:27 am

parnassus wrote:Charlotte, you are going through the same process that I went through a few years ago. I was fifteen when the possibility of autism was suggested to me. The wife of the boarding housemaster (known as Mrs S in Caged in Chaos) sat down with me to go through my diagnostic report and told me at the end that she thought I also had Asperger Syndrome. She was the headmistress of a special school, so I took her quite seriously until I went on the Internet and read about AS. Then I decided that this couldn't possibly be me at all. I didn't know what she was talking about. I was seventeen when I was diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum, and by this point my knowledge and self-awareness had increased enough for me to accept and even welcome the diagnosis. Being a part of the autism support group here at university has helped me to see that there are lots of autistic people who match my cognitive profile, so I'm not even the kind of 'autistic anomaly' that I saw myself as when I was seventeen - I'm actually a standard model!

I have a good sense of humour as well. I know a lot of autistics who are funny. Similarly, I am a very friendly person - I just don't look it on the outside. It pains me to know that I have a reputation within college for being brusque and unreceptive, because I really do care about people. I wish they knew that. I just don't know how to show it so well. It is easier for me if the people are obviously vulnerable or in need of my help, because then they tend to concentrate on my intentions (to be kind) more than the problems I have with communication and expression.

For what it's worth, I think that you are probably on the autistic spectrum somewhere. It is very broad and blurry in places. However, if you don't feel comfortable using the autistic 'label', you don't have to - I was given the same diagnosis as you by one specialist, and I have rarely used it. (It was made redundant by the ASD diagnosis anyway.) For some reason I always preferred to say dyspraxia. Remember that your comfort is the most important thing.

I'm having trouble showing empathy at the moment. weather that's due to my depression or anxiety I don't know...I just feel odd...and I don't know whats wrong maybe I'm over analyzing things and I cannot really settle properly.
I feel narcissistic at times...
Have bad low self esteem too...if feels like a real effort to show emotion if you don't know how you feel or you feel blank.
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Re: Autistic Spectrum? Or just 'different'?

Postby _robyn_ » Sun Jun 17, 2012 10:06 pm

A few of my teachers didnt really think I was on the autistic spectrum until someone actually pointed out my behaviour- they just thought i was eccentric. But when all my behaviour in different lessons and at home were added together, my doctor was definite I had aspergers syndrome.

Most people when they meet me say I'm quirky, eccentric and weird in a good way. They say I'm fruity in a good way and that they compare me to that of a tim burton movie, weird but in a good way.
So most people say I dont fit the autistic stereotype, I'm apparently really funny (although this is usually unintentional....)

Also everyone at my school thought people on the autistic spectrum were rude because they spoke literally, and they were shocked because I avoid conflict at all costs by not being rude. I hate conflict so I do anything to avoid it. Although I can take some things literally, mainly instructions, my mum said can you get this out of the draw and I did but never passed it to her because she never told me to do that and I cant predict the next instruction when being asked to do something.
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Re: Autistic Spectrum? Or just 'different'?

Postby Steph » Mon Jun 18, 2012 10:21 am

You sound exactly like me, Robyn. I also do anything to avoid conflict and will bottle up negative emotions for ages until I can't handle them any more and then I'll shock people by randomly bursting into tears. I am also seen as very eccentric and make people laugh all the time, usually unintentionally. They do say that AS presents itself differently in females.
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