Learning to drive?

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Postby Cartouche » Sat Nov 24, 2007 8:34 pm

I suppose I'll learn to drive someday, even if I'm one of those people who will walk or take the train if it is possible...granted, that is somewhat easier in Germany...
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Postby Ross Millar » Fri Dec 21, 2007 2:13 am

Most people are making refrence to confusion with left and right. When booking your driving test you can apply for special needs ... this is where as well as the instruction "left" and "right" they will also point to the left or right. Most of the instructions will also be more detailed. Speak to the Drivers Standards Agency or go to the website www.dsa.gov.uk for more information.

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Postby Syrons » Sat Dec 22, 2007 9:26 pm

I am going to try again, i look at some people and i think how are they driving lol, So on that i am going to try again.

A big problem for me is being bored behind the wheel, i am not one of these people who always says their bored but i know from my experience last time i kept falling into daydreams. This time i am going for automatic because i don't think i enjoy Manuel and for someone who drifts off a bit, i think it would be wiser to go automatic, so i don't stall it or get stuck in a gear change for 30seconds and having too think about it.

The worse thing for me is thinking about what i am going to do. Someday my mind isn't going too think, That means automatic would mean i could basically drive like a deadman but still be on the road and driving fine lol. Especially when my thinking brain is dead in the afternoons all i be using is natural instant and thats how i eventually learn something.
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Postby Thirteen-thirty-seven » Sat Dec 22, 2007 10:19 pm

If you can't keep your eyes and mind on the road, I don't think it's wise to attemtp driving.
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Postby tears_on_a_pillow » Sun Dec 23, 2007 3:17 pm

I am currently in America and everyone appears to be stunned that I have never had a driving lesson, my friends I am staying with want to try teach me to drive, I have my doubts. A few days ago one of them asked me to put her keys in the ignition to start the car to try heat it a bit to dislodge some ice, she could sense the anxiety within me whilst asking, I did it thought despite being a jitty wreck prior and after.
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Postby invisifish » Mon Dec 24, 2007 1:24 pm

I think I will try to learn to drive when I'm older, and I think I might be able to, provided I overcome my phobia of moving trucks and other large veacles. That phobia could be a problem, as when I'm siting in the seat nexter the drivers seat I have to close my eyes if we are driving past a truck, because i always think that they will hit us, they always seem so close and large, and I dont' see how the car always manages to avoid them.
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Postby C » Mon Dec 24, 2007 1:34 pm

As some of you may know I have been learning to drive. For over two years now. Learning in a manual was near impossible for me so I switched to an automatic a couple of months ago, after a driving ability assessment. My driving instructor now is the man who assessed me. I trust him a lot - I know he has told people before that he can't see them passing a test and that he will be honest with me. He has also taught a boy with dyspraxia (who he said had more severe problems with me) and got him to pass so I'm hopeful.

The thing that worries me is how inconsistent I am. Sometimes I'll drive really well for half an hour and then just mess everything up. There's lots I do that is really good, but then I'll make a mistake suddenly that is really dangerous. My instrcutor has noted this too - he often says that I am overall a really good driver it's just that the few mistakes I make are realyl dangerous ones!

So I don't know what to do really, I still panic at roundabouts and driving still scares me a little. I also have concentration problems my instructor has reccomended that when (if?) I pass I shouldn't attempt long journeys and I shouldn't have lots of background noise, eg. radio on, people talking in the car. I completely agree. Part of me realyl wants to pass but part of me thinks I'd rather be safe than sorry and it's not like I go out a lot anyway, I could quite easily get by without a car.

Even though I'm unsure I would definitely reccomend people to give driving a try if they can. Go for a driving ability assessment first then if they say it's safe CHOOSE AN AUTOMATIC CAR! It's so much easier than a manual. I think I'm going to give myself another four months or so (by which time I'll have been driving in an automatic for six months and driving overall for 2 1/2 years) and then, if I haven't passed, think about whether I want to carry on or not.
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Postby scheister » Wed Jan 09, 2008 10:37 am

at this stage i've spent 5 summer and gone though i'd say 6 instuctiors to no use. last year i changed over to an automatic and it was much easier still small bit to do but wud advise it as the best way to go. please say this will be the year
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Postby C » Mon Feb 04, 2008 6:36 pm

I stopped learning to drive last Saturday. After I had tried to go round a roundabout that already had a car going round it (my driving instructor used dual control to stop me) and generally been very slow and hesitant my driving instructor talked to me and told me he was having doubts. Although I started off as his 'star pupil' and there were things I was doing that were very good, there were other things that were slightly worrying him such as my hesitancy still and my slow response to things due to my slow speed of processing of information. He told me if I was going to pass it would take another year at least and he was losing hope. I informed him that I was planning on reviewing my progress in March, when I'd been learning in an automatic for six months and he told me he didn't think I was going to get there. He seemed really sad for me and said he was sorry for getting my hopes up at the beginning but said that was his honest view now and he could keep on taking my money but it wouldn't be right. I respect him so much for telling me, the priary reason I choose him after he assessed me was because I knew he'd be honest, a big part of his job is telling people they can't drive, he'd already told a seventy-nine year old man that day that he couldn't pass a test after a stroke.

So I agreed to stop; he's a specialist and for me to not take his advice would not only be stupid but morally wrong. Plus... deep down I've never felt comfortable in a car. I know everyone's nervous at first and some people take longer than others and all that but I always knew it was different with me. It never stopped being cognitively demanding and the natural task it is for most after a while, even in the automatic I was always having to think over everything. The first half an hour would be fine and then I'd get tired and lose my concentration and my attention would go. I still think that, on a good day, in a quiet area with few distractions in a year or so I may have been able to pass a test but if I'm not safe on the road then I don't want to.

So, after 2 1/4 years of trying to learn to drive I made the decision to stop. My family are all supportive, although at the beginning my dad and his girlfriend were trying to push me into it a little, pursuading me to start out in a manual car, rather than an automatic. My dads girlfriend even told me once that the reason I wasn't succeeding was because I wasn't trying hard enough and it didn't interest me; 'it's like when you were at school, Charlotte, you weren't interested in the work so you didn't do well. At Uni you're interested, you do well. Driving is like that, it's because it doesn't interest you.' That really infuriated me, as I'm sure you can imagine! Even though driving scared me and I never really wanted to learn in the beginning I am upset that I have to rely on taxis/buses/trains for the rest of my life and I know I'm going to be at a disadvantage for some things not driving. I know it's not my fault really but there is still some anger that I wasn't able to do it, what a waste of money!

Looking back, if I had my time over again I'd have started learning in an automatic car and definitely gone for a driving ability assessment straight away. I've learnt something from this which is to listen to myself rather than other people - I have a better idea of what I can and can't do than other people do.
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Postby k9ruby » Mon Feb 04, 2008 8:02 pm

Charlotte, I'm glad the instructor was honest with you, but I'm sending virtual (((((((HUGS)))))))))) and chocolates all the same :cry: :cry: :cry:

Hey- at least you had a go! I also think you were incredibly brave to do so (I am telling myself also I will have a go, but everyone including me is pretty convinced its probably not going to happen! :roll: ) at least you tried and thats all that matters!!
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Postby animall0versister » Mon Feb 04, 2008 9:11 pm

This thread is so true! I'm not allowed to drive, even though I think I could. Mum is too damn protective!
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Postby Cartouche » Tue Feb 05, 2008 10:32 am

Sorry to hear that Charlotte. Still, it is a wonderful thing that he was so honest with you. I suspect some may have just thought "great, money for another year at least" and left it at that.

I'm a scarily passionate advocate of public transport, though, and I believe that having to get around by busses and trains and the like should not be an issue, but the government won't change that quickly, and whilst France has just announced a new high speed train, the only things increasing about British railways are the fares, and not the speed or convenience.

Having said that, a car can be very useful, especially to travel nuts like myself. I'll hope that my partner will be a good driver...
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Postby Andy » Tue Feb 05, 2008 5:19 pm

I am learning to drive just now I got lessons for my birthday I am loving it mind you its only my third lesson :shock:
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Postby benjnottingham » Tue Feb 05, 2008 8:29 pm

I went for a special test to see if I could Drive and have lessons, they person at the center said I could drive. I've still got my license for having driving lessons with, but I will think stick to buses & trams to get me to places.
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