Tips for Making Friends and Socialising

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Re: Tips for Making Friends and Socialising

Postby hamsterboi » Sat Mar 21, 2009 7:14 pm

Dyspraxia affects my social life the most. I struggle to speak to people, even my friends. I'm proud to say i'm improving a lot! :)
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Re: Tips for Making Friends and Socialising

Postby monkey » Sun Mar 22, 2009 3:19 am

That is good :)
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Re: Tips for Making Friends and Socialising

Postby Skinny3600 » Tue Mar 31, 2009 3:46 pm

i did the "im stuck on this question" approach....then failed....then i retreated into my shell :P oh well im happy with the few friends i got anyway xD theres no one that i could realy be friends with at my college anyway
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Re: Tips for Making Friends and Socialising

Postby Alice » Sun Apr 05, 2009 11:10 am

Look directly at pepoles faces, but staring in pepoles eyes makes them nervous. I tend to examine pepoles apearence in detail as I talk to them. This helps with both eye contact and recognising them next time.

Give more detailin you answers than necessary, and bounce back questions but in a slightly different way. You know the sort of thing:
"how are you?" "great, but I'm starting to worry about exams a bit. I think everyone is. How are you coping?" is a lot better than "how are you" "fine."

Copy the other persons way of standing/sitting, but not in a caricatured way.

Try to limit yourself to apologising only three times per conversation.
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Re: Tips for Making Friends and Socialising

Postby Skinny3600 » Sun Apr 05, 2009 6:26 pm

anyone got tips for people with REALY bad self esteem/confidence
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Re: Tips for Making Friends and Socialising

Postby miikeyy » Sun Apr 05, 2009 9:36 pm

Think alot about what you say,
I used to say really irrlevent and stupid things and when I looked back at what I said, it made me feel stupid and damaged my confidence.
Before starting a conversation with someone, think about the relevence of it.
I may be the "weird" person in school, but thats good because I laugh at you because your the same.
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Re: Tips for Making Friends and Socialising

Postby OneWingedAngel » Wed Jun 03, 2009 8:51 pm

I've got massive issues with making friends, but I've got a few tips.

1) Most cliched thing ever said, but DO be yourself. Pretending to be someone you're not day in day out is impossible.

2) Think about what you're going to say, but don't overthink it. Think about if it'll sound okay, but don't take so long thinking about it you miss out on the conversation.

3) When social opportunities arrive, take them. Grab every opportunity you've got to make friends.

That's it really. And no matter what happens, keep smiling!

:D :) :wink:
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Re:

Postby Brian » Thu Jun 25, 2009 1:37 am

kitty_cute wrote:I swear wayy too much... I need to stop!


Im the same. The only time I dont swear is when Im in church and at home.

My social life is terrible, the last time I did something on a Saturday night was back in March.
Talking is a sign of strength and not weakness

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Postby the monk in question » Tue Jun 30, 2009 1:04 am

kitty_cute wrote:I swear wayy too much... I need to stop!


Don't, swearing is fine.
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Re: Tips for Making Friends and Socialising

Postby samspock91 » Sun Jul 12, 2009 1:25 pm

:mrgreen: hey i resenlay strated to go out socilizeing with ma cuson thsts the same age and ive made freedns becuse i was more confadint whith him arond and i now hae bf too cus i just was me witch include a swearin ocasonlay :mrgreen:
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Re: Tips for Making Friends and Socialising

Postby Goldenhamster » Mon Jul 13, 2009 3:42 pm

If you're in a crowded room or a group conversation, either of which you may not feel up to participating in, watch and listen to people. They will think that you are interested and therefore interesting, and you will pick up on social cues that you may otherwise have missed. I think in many ways it is easier to learn by watching than by participating when you feel unsure of yourself.
You don't have to be dyspraxic to be exeptional

But it helps!
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Postby the monk in question » Sat Jul 18, 2009 12:18 am

Katielauren2001 wrote:My tips are just to be yourself,go and join clubs,smile and don't pretend to be someone your not




I joined a club once - man was it intimating.
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Re: Tips for Making Friends and Socialising

Postby Creative » Sat Jul 18, 2009 7:33 pm

I joined a support group for Aspergers Syndrome and I didn't fit in so I stopped going.

I get on best with just one or two people at once. Too many people at once can be confusing for my brain!
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Postby smileygal » Sat Mar 05, 2011 12:10 pm

parnassus wrote:Never use foul language. Ever. It doesn't matter if everyone is in your class is saying, "F**k this," and, "F**k that" - keep your own mouth clean. Swearing sounds horribly unintelligent and it can still offend a surprisingly large number of people.


I know rite? I did when i went to my new school but its so negative and pointless so I finally broke the habit :)_
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Re: Tips for Making Friends and Socialising

Postby Thirteen-thirty-seven » Sat Mar 05, 2011 12:15 pm

frown that advice. It's blob.
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